While every relationship is likely to have its ups and downs, it is important to keep in mind the warning signs or “red flags” of an unhealthy or abusive relationship in case a rough patch in your relationship has become more. Keep in mind that seeing one or two “red flags” in your relationship does not mean it has become abusive, but these behaviors could indicate an unhealthy pattern in your relationship that you want to further examine. Unhealthy and abusive relationships can happen to anyone and it is not your fault. If you see red flags in your relationship, seek out professional counseling to help you make decisions about your relationship moving forward. Everyone deserves to be in a healthy relationship.
Call the Greater Richmond Regional Helpline at 804-612-6126 if you want to talk to someone. A confidential advocate is available 24/7 to help you.
There is no typical profile of an abuser, but these are some common behaviors to look for if you are concerned your relationship may be abusive:
- Feeling afraid of your partner
- Feeling isolated, embarrassed or humiliated
- Losing your friends
- Extreme jealousy, possessiveness, or controlling behavior
- Feeling embarrassed, put down, ashamed, or guilty
- Feeling nervous or sick to your stomach when your partner is irritated, frustrated, or angry
- Feeling as if your partner touches you in ways you wish they wouldn’t
- Being threatened by your partner
- Abuse of other family members, children
- Verbal or emotional abuse
- Blaming you for anything bad that happens
- Being physically hurt